Sexual Formation

 
 

I'm dealing with feelings of betrayal from my spouse’s sexual sin.

You’re not alone.  The latest statistics on Christians and porn habits are pretty staggering.  It affects men and women, young and old, single and married.  And when your spouse betrays your trust, the effects can be devastating.  We’re here to support you.  At Riverbend, we partner with a ministry called Pure Desire to help people heal from betrayal trauma.

Steps to healing:

  1. Reach out to our team of trusted leaders.  Our leaders have been through a similar journey as you, and they’re now living in the hope of forgiveness and healing.  Your name and your story will remain confidential.  

  2. Join a Betrayal and Beyond group.  Betrayal and Beyond is Pure Desire’s program for women dealing with the fallout of their husband’s sexual brokenness.  It’s a very vulnerable and safe community of women working through the journey of forgiveness and healing.  

  3. Setup your Network of Care.  We’re not meant to do this alone.  In your Betrayal and Beyond group, you’ll build meaningful relationships with other people who can relate to your story and will be actively supporting you in your journey.  In addition to a group of peers, we recommend developing a network of care that includes a Christian counselor, pastoral direction, and a wise mentor.  

  4. Devote yourself to the Process.  Recovering from the shock of betrayal from your spouse and the other issues the trauma may trigger in our hearts is a long journey.  The process is proven: Pure Desire has helped hundreds of thousands of people heal from sexual brokenness.  With the Lord’s help — you can do this too.  We have many trusted resources and podcasts to encourage you along the way. 

 
 

find a Counselor:

  • Bill and Eileen Fagan, Transformation Counseling - Pure Desire Clinicians

  • Dana and Ramona Gescher, Higher Ground Counseling

  • Alex Yang, Abundance Counseling (Remote Appointments Only)

Resources for people dealing with betrayal trauma:

  • A Grace Disguised, by Jerry Sittser

  • Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means

  • Aftershock: Overcoming His Secret Life with Pornography, by Joann Condie

  • Partner Betrayal Trauma, by Douglas Weiss

  • Worthy of Her Trust, by Jason Martinkus and Stephen Arterburn

  • Help Her Heal, by Carol Juergensen Sheets

  • Unwanted, by Jay Stringer

  • God, Sex and Your Marriage, by Juli Slattery